Stop Keeping Mum

21 September 2014

Once again I am linking up to Kate on Thin Ice for her weekly round up of supporting other mums.  The topic this week is all around not speaking out.  In my previous roles at work I have seen the devastation this can cause in everyday life especially where Domestic Violence is concerned.  Refuge have a new campaign running at the minute called You Are Not Alone.  A powerful clip from Jamelia heads the campaign, such a worthwhile charity for the hundreds of women who suffer in silence.

Have you lost your voice? When and how did that happen?
When it comes to my needs I'm afraid to say I do not speak out.  Sometimes I think it is just easier to go with the flow, although saying that there is only so much that one person can take on.

How do you use your voice? Are you using it for yourself, your family and/or a good cause?
I like to think that my professional image is totally apart from my personal side.  At work I champion for carers of people with learning disabilities, holding lots of useful information for the area I live in and offer support where appropriate.  I also like to support the Domestic Violence campaigns as I have seen the effects this can have on people.  I also support the Macmillan coffee mornings as I work alongside a Macmillan nurse and see on a daily basis the impact she has on people's lives.

Is there anyone in your life who would prefer you to stay quiet? Why would they want that to happen?
I think my husband would be more than happy if I shut up!  Sometimes I wonder why I bother saying anything, why ask for my opinion if you don't listen!

Whose voice do you miss most and why?
I miss my Nan, she died when I was 5 years old and I would love to be able to talk to her now.

What do you need to speak up about? Who to? What support do you need to help you do that
I need to be more open about my own health, I'm one of those people that keeps silent through worry.

Is your inner voice helping or hindering you?
My head tells me one thing and my heart another, which do you follow?

Kate on thin Ice Striking Mums


  1. Thanks for joining in I can see you gave thought to the questions and I hope you have learned from them in some way and perhaps can celebrate what is good and make changes where things could be better for you. Really admire you for taking on all the questions. I think a lot of us mums are so exhausted listening to everyone's else's views that we almost forget what ours are at all. @kateonthinice

  2. It sounds like you have a very worthwhile career, funny I said my Husband would like me to keep quiet to x

  3. I totally agree with you Kate, like I said professionally people listen but personally I'm not sure my opinion is valued that much, although I know I'm right ;) x

  4. Thanks Sarah, may be I will try the silent treatment and see how that goes :) x

  5. Looking for Blue Sky23 September 2014 at 09:45

    Hopefully another time I will answer the actual questions: reading this I can see how useful an exercise this is. Love that your work involves helping carers and previously those affected by domestic violence, two causes that are very dear to me xx


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