Tuesday, 20 December 2016

Missing this Christmas


The last two years have been a mixture of emotions, one minute elation and the next despair.  Hubbies beautiful, kind, fun and generous brother had battled with leukaemia for months but sadly we lost him a week ago.  Our lives have been turned upside down, Gee is totally devastated to lose the uncle who cared for her in the school holidays (he was a teacher) and provided her with precious memories of summer fun.


Gee is coping, although she keeps breaking down with questions we find difficult to answer. Although she is 11 years old we are encouraging her to talk about Bert and the times she spent with him.  It is hard to explain to a child that a loved one will always be with them by the memories they created together.  With this in mind we have started to create a memory book to capture all those moments she cherished so much and hopefully this will help her to move forward.


This Christmas will be difficult, but we aim to have family around and celebrate as Bert would want us to.  You see Bert was the life and soul of the party, up for anything and such an amazing musician.  He would not want us sitting round being morbid in fact his words to us were "I don't know why this has happened to me but perhaps you lot are screwed and I have a good gig on the otherside"!

After Christmas we plan to celebrate his life at his funeral.  Bert requested we held a Jam night where all his musician friends will share his love of music and laughter. Reminiscing about the wonderful young man that he was. There will be plenty of stories of "can you remember when Bert did this". Yes there will be tears shed but some of those will be tears of joy for having spent time with such a inspirational young man.

We love you Bert and will ensure you live on in your son's world with the help of your beautiful wife, you never know he could turn out a better drummer than you. Enough sadness Bert, now go and rock those pearly gates and show them what fun is about.  There will be one hell of a party in heaven xxx

15 comments:

  1. Oh this really had me welling up - such an emotional and beautiful post thank you for sharing x

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  2. Oh my, I am so so sorry to read this. anyone passing is hard, but feels especially tough at Christmas time. sending you much love x

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  3. I'm so sorry for your loss there's no rhyme or reason with things like this. Sending you lots of love through the Christmas period. x

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  4. I am so sorry for your loss. It is never easy, but more so around Christmas. xx

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  5. I'm so sorry to read about the loss of Bert but he sounds like such a character, and I'm sure you will all keep his memory alive this Christmas. It's so hard missing a loved one at Christmas, I miss my son more than ever at this time, but I'm sure that they are never far away. Much love to you all. xx

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  6. So sorry to hear about Bert what a wonderful, brave, inspirational man. May he rest in peace.

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  7. I am so sorry to read this Cathy :(

    Sending lots of love and thoughts your way xx

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  8. This is so sad, he sounds like a truly wonderful man. Sending you all lots of love x

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  9. My condolences to you and family. It is hard but he's in a better place now with no suffering. I hope your children and husband are OK (as much as they can be.)

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  10. Thinking of you and your family, I can't imagination how tough this is for you all xx

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  11. My condolences to you and your family. Loss is hard but it gets especially hard during Christmas. I lost my grandfather a week before Christmas a while ago and I remember how hard it was for all my family.
    Sending lots of love and thoughts. May Bert rest in piece.

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  12. Sorry to hear this. Love to you and your family. Sounds like you'll be giving him a good send off x

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  13. I am so sorry for your loss. The jam sounds like a really fab send off for him. I hope all of you have as lovely a Christmas as you can and remember him for the amazing person he was. x

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  14. I'm so sorry for your loss, so glad you are encouraging your daughter ot be open and ask all the questions she needs to. Mich x

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  15. I was so sorry to hear this, I hope Christmas was a pain free as possible and celebrating his life seems a wonderful idea

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