Tuesday, 20 December 2016
Missing this Christmas
Posted by Cathy at 09:16
The last two years have been a mixture of emotions, one minute elation and the next despair. Hubbies beautiful, kind, fun and generous brother had battled with leukaemia for months but sadly we lost him a week ago. Our lives have been turned upside down, Gee is totally devastated to lose the uncle who cared for her in the school holidays (he was a teacher) and provided her with precious memories of summer fun.
Gee is coping, although she keeps breaking down with questions we find difficult to answer. Although she is 11 years old we are encouraging her to talk about Bert and the times she spent with him. It is hard to explain to a child that a loved one will always be with them by the memories they created together. With this in mind we have started to create a memory book to capture all those moments she cherished so much and hopefully this will help her to move forward.
This Christmas will be difficult, but we aim to have family around and celebrate as Bert would want us to. You see Bert was the life and soul of the party, up for anything and such an amazing musician. He would not want us sitting round being morbid in fact his words to us were "I don't know why this has happened to me but perhaps you lot are screwed and I have a good gig on the otherside"!
After Christmas we plan to celebrate his life at his funeral. Bert requested we held a Jam night where all his musician friends will share his love of music and laughter. Reminiscing about the wonderful young man that he was. There will be plenty of stories of "can you remember when Bert did this". Yes there will be tears shed but some of those will be tears of joy for having spent time with such a inspirational young man.
We love you Bert and will ensure you live on in your son's world with the help of your beautiful wife, you never know he could turn out a better drummer than you. Enough sadness Bert, now go and rock those pearly gates and show them what fun is about. There will be one hell of a party in heaven xxx