Saturday, 25 August 2012

OCD Concerns in Grotbags

Tonight I have had to console my daughter as she was physically shaking in the kitchen, which developed into a panic attack. It all started when I told her she could not wash her hands again (she had just got out of the bath) and she started rubbing her hands together and twirling them round, sobbing as she said she could not look at the tap without wanting to wash her hands. I have never felt so horrible and scared as I have not got a clue what to do to make this go away.

Over the last few weeks things have gradually become much worse. When she puts shoes on she measures the laces or Velcro to check they are the same length, we have to cut all tags out of clothes and far worse she will not even love Fizz our dog anymore in case she gets germs. Every time she touches the kitten she washes her hands (which are now red and chapped) and I feel so helpless.


So tonight I am sat here writing this post sobbing for my little princess, I want my happy carefree daughter back.

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4 comments:

  1. It's awful but I have no idea how to change it; Liam seems to have grown out of his OCD's although I'm not around him to watch him as much anymore. His worst was smelling stuff when he was little, then he used to clock watch, and always had to have things a certain way.

    Maisie had a few for a bit but doesn't seem to anymore and Maxwell always has to hang his blanket over the cot when he gets up in a morning and tidies all his cuddlies to the head of the cot.

    Has she got worse since she moved? Maybe that's bothered her abit?

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  2. Thanks sis, going to take her to see our GP as things were really bad Saturday, from what I have read up illness can trigger OCD and she had a strep throat infection a few weeks ago, think this may be the cause, thanks for all the info x x

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  3. I have suffered from OCD all my life and I really don't know what to advise you - but I'd definitely advise action of some sort. My behaviour was always just considered odd by my parents - we're going back to the 80s and 90s, when awareness of OCD was low - and it didn't manifest itself seriously until adulthood, but I wonder if I would have been much less ill if I'd had some treatment as a child. Taking Grace to see your GP sounds like a good first step. Make sure you stand firm and aren't fobbed off. Your daughter will need to be referred to a specialist; don't let your doctor tell you it's just a phase or she'll grow out of it because, although actually she might, the risk is too great to take.
    This is really difficult for you but I guess one piece of advice I can give is try your hardest not to culpabilise the OCD. Grace isn't doing this to be naughty or silly or because she wants to and she can't just snap out of it. Just telling her there are no germs won't take away her fear. Don't ban her from indulging in OCD behaviours, this will only make her more anxious. I'd say indulge the behaviour until she is well enough not to do it. Don't make her feel guilty or embarrassed or silly as this will only drive a wedge between you and it will make her worse, because she will become even more tense and anxious. The more my parents told me not to behave in an OCD way, the more I did it. Let her know you love her and are there for her and will look after her. The more relaxed and loved she feels, the more likely the behaviour is to lessen, in my opinion.
    You can, however, lead by example which I also think is very important. If you think Grace is developing a phobia of germs then maybe have a look at your own behaviour and see if there is anything you're doing which could be encouraging her to worry about them. The less she sees you worrying about germs, the less she will do so herself. Even better, read up on a bit of science about the transmission of germs so you can help her understand why the risks aren't as great as she fears. My mother, a biologist, was very helpful on this score and her words of wisdom still help me today. If I'm in a difficult situation I can often think about it scientifically and realise I don't need to worry.
    If I can be of any more help email me at sarah.linney@holidayextras.com and I'll answer you in my spare time.

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  4. PS My blog's at thedailysarah.wordpress.com if you want to have a read - there might be something there that resonates with you.

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